Most men are ‘invisible’ on dating apps— here’s how to stand out: psychologist

It’s a man’s world — except on dating apps.

A psychologist, Dr. Orion Taraban, says a “vast majority” of men are “invisible” when pursuing romance online, with women only considering a small number of males as potential partners. Dr. Taraban made the claim on the popular “Diary of CEO” podcast before giving his tips on how dud dudes could level up to make themselves more eligible.

Young men are at a particular disadvantage in the dating world, according to Dr. Taraban. They don’t have what either women or more experienced men want or need, and they’re generally very disposable — and unfortunately we’ve seen that, he added. Young men have a very high mortality rate.
Women are more likely to swipe on men who appeared to have money or a specific skillset—selling points more attributed to older men. However, Dr. Taraban, author of the new book “The Value of Others: Understanding the Economic Model of Relationships to Get (and Keep) More of What You Want in the Sexual Marketplace,” offered some advice to lovelorn lads looking for a lady.
Men can improve their chances by focusing on their appearance and communication skills, Dr. Taraban stated. Women are drawn to presentable guys on apps, he said.
According to the psychologist, men should consider investing in a few fashionable outfits to better attract attention and boost their confidence. “By far one of the best things that men can do is just spend one or two thousand bucks to get, like, two or three really good outfits; you can just cycle through them when you’re dating,” Taraban said.
Dr. Taraban alleged that ‘If you’re the best-dressed man in the room, you get, like, one free point.’ Men just need to put some clothes on and get a better haircut, and they refuse to do that for whatever reason.
For those fellas who may not be genetically blessed, Dr. Taraban said it was important to appeal to a woman’s mind. He emphasized the importance of learning how to converse on a woman’s wavelength, as men and women have “very different” communication styles.
According to Dr. Taraban, “If you can learn how to talk to women in a way that she will listen and respond to, you will be able to do all kinds of things and have all kinds of relationships.” He concluded that it’s a lot about vibing—feminine communication is very different from masculine communication.

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